Gottman Sound Relationship House Questionnaires (20 item scale)
The Quality of the Couple’s Friendship Measures
John M. Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman‚ 1999‚ 200-2004
آوای رابطه در خانه- 20 ماده ای
1 = True
2 = False
Love Maps
1. I can name my partner’s best friends.
2. I can tell you what stressors my partner is currently facing.
3. I know the names of some of the people who have been irritating in my partner’s current life.
4. I can tell you some of my partner’s life dreams.
5. I am very familiar with my partner’s religious beliefs and ideas.
6. I can tell you about my partner’s basic philosophy of life.
7. I can list the relatives my partner likes the least.
8. I know my partner’s favorite music.
9. I can list my partner’s three favorite movies.
10.My partner is familiar with what are my current stresses.
11.I know the three times that have been the most special in my partner’s life.
12.I can tell you the most stressful thing that happened to my partner as a child.
13.I can list my partner’s major aspirations and hopes in life.
14.I know my partner’s major current worries.
15.My partner knows who my friends are.
16.I know what my partner would want to do if he or she suddenly won the lottery.
17.I can tell you in detail my first impressions of my partner.
18.Periodically‚ I update my knowledge of my partner’s world.
19.I feel that my partner knows me pretty well.
20.My partner is familiar with my own hopes and aspirations..
Fondness and Admiration System
1. I can easily list the three things I admire most about my partner.
2. When we are apart I often think fondly of my partner.
3. I will often find some way to tell my partner “I love you.”
4. I often touch or kiss my partner affectionately.
5. My partner really respects me
6. I feel loved and cared for in this relationship.
7. I feel accepted and liked by my partner.
8. My partner finds me sexy and attractive.
9. My partner turns me on sexually.
10.There is fire and passion in this relationship.
11.Romance is something our relationship definitely still has in it.
12.I am really proud of my partner.
13.My partner really enjoys my achievements and accomplishments.
14.I can easily tell you why I am committed to my partner.
15.If I had it to do all over again I would be with the same person.
16.We rarely go to sleep without some show of love or affection.
17.When I come into a room my partner’s face brightens.
18.My partner appreciates the things I do in this relationship.
19.My partner generally likes my personality.
20.Our sex life is generally satisfying.
Turning Towards or Away
1. We enjoy doing even the smallest things together‚ like folding laundry or watching TV.
2. I look forward to spending my free time with my partner.
3. At the end of a day my partner is glad to see me.
4. My partner is usually interested in hearing my views on things.
5. I really enjoy discussing things with my partner.
6. My partner is one of my best friends.
7. I think my partner would consider me a very close friend.
8. We love just talking to each other.
9. When we go out‚ the time goes very quickly.
10.We always have a lot to say to each other.
11.We have a lot of fun together in our everyday lives.
12.We are spiritually very compatible.
13.We tend to share the same basic values in life.
14.We like to spend time together in similar ways.
15.We really have a lot of interests in common.
16.We have many of the same dreams and life goals.
17.We like to do a lot of the same things.
18.Even though our interests are somewhat different‚ I enjoy my partner’s interests.
19.Whatever we do together we usually have a good time.
20.My partner tells me when he or she has had a bad day.
EMOTIONAL DISENGAGEMENT AND LONELINESS
1. I often find myself disappointed in this relationship.
2. I have learned to expect less form my partner.
3. I will at times find myself quite lonely in this relationship.
4. It is hard for my deepest feelings to get much attention in this relationship.
5. I often try to avoid saying things I will later regret.
6. I feel like I have to be so careful it is like walking on eggshells.
7. Suddenly once again I find I have said the wrong thing.
8. There is not much intimacy in this relationship right now.
9. Our relationship problems are not really solvable.
10.Sometimes our relationship feels empty to me.
11.This relationship is not quite what I expected and I feel let down by it.
12.We are pretty separate and unconnected emotionally.
13.We don’t really talk very deeply to each other.
14.There is not enough closeness between us.
15.I sometimes think I expect too much and should settle for less in my relationship.
16.I am coping with a lot of emotional stress but it will be okay eventually.
17.I have adapted to a lot in this relationship and I am not so sure it’s a good idea.
18.There’s certainly not a lot of romance in this relationship.
19.I can’t really say that we are very good friends right now.
20.I am lonely in this relationship.
شرح سایت روان سنجی: "جان گاتمن" فردی صاحب نام در زمینه مطالعات علمی در زمینه ازدواج برای چهار دهه است. او مدلی "1994" و ابزارهایی برای پیش بینی و پایایی زندگی مشترک بر پایه کارهای بالینی ارائه کرد.
فرم بلند "تعارض" در همین پایگاه وجود دارد.
Friendship & Intimacy
• Love Maps
• Fondness and Admiration
• Turning Toward or Away
• Emotional Distance and Loneliness
Conflict
• Harsh Startup
• The Four Horsemen
• Gridlock on Perpetual Issues
• Accepting Influence
• Compromise
Conflict Processes
• Flooding
• Negative Sentiment Override
• Effective Repair Attempts
Meaning
• Shared Meaning Rituals
• Shared Meaning Roles
• Shared Meaning Goals
• Shared Meaning Symbols
اعتبار: مقیاس ها ، آلفا کرونباخ (شوهر، زن)
Scale‚ Cronbach alpha (Husband‚ Wife)
Love Maps (.61‚ .59)‚ Fondness & Admiration (.91‚ .91)‚ Turning Toward (.90‚ .89)‚ Negative Sentiment Override (.92‚ .92)‚ 17-areas (.77‚ .73)‚ Harsh Startup (.93‚ .91)‚ Accepts Influence (.39‚ .37)‚ Repair (.87‚ .87)‚ Compromise (.62‚ .61)‚ Gridlock (.91‚ .90)‚ Four Horsemen (.94‚ .93)‚ Flooding (.89‚ .88)‚ Emotional Distance & Loneliness (.91‚ .91)‚ Shared Meaning Total (.92‚ .89)‚ Husband: Rituals ( .77‚ 0.76)‚ Roles (.45‚ .79)‚ Symbols (.85‚ .80)‚ goals (.86‚ .72)
Friendship: (.95‚ .94); Sex‚ romance and passion: (.90‚ .89); Negative sentiment override: (.92‚ .92); Destructive or constructive marital conflict (abbreviated as “destructive conflict”): (.94‚ .94); Repair effectiveness: (.87‚ .87); Flooding: (.89‚ .88); and Shared meaning total score: (.93‚ .90.)
چگونگی دستیابی
منبع برای آگاهی بیشتر
Gottman‚ J. M. (1999). The marriage clinic: A scientifically based marital therapy. New York‚ NY: W.W. Norton & Company
Gottman‚ J.M. & Silver‚ N. (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. New York‚ NY: Crown Publishers‚ Inc