Quality of Marital Relationships (QMR) Scale
Mohamadi‚ Pirkaefi‚ 1393 (2014) & Mohamadi‚ Sahebi‚ 2014
مقیاس کیفیت روابط زناشویی
1. I put down my spouse’s behavior if I don’t like it
2. I threaten my spouse to beat him/her if she/he doesn't do according to my demands
3. I put down my spouse if she/he doesn’t act according to my demands
4. As soon as I see my spouse make any mistakes‚ I remind her/him it was her/his fault continually
5. I blame my spouse for all the mistakes she/he has made
6. I frequently correct my spouse and direct him/her to do a task my way
7. When I have an argument with my spouse‚ I stop visiting her/his family
8. When I get into an argument with my spouse‚ I threaten him/her that I will leave our house forever
9. If some problem comes up between me and my spouse‚ I blame my spouse and I tell her/him so.
10.I show my spouse my dissatisfaction of her/his behavior in our relationship
11.I put the blame on my spouse if he/she is not able to do duties like someone else
12.I attack my spouse's attitude if I don’t like the way she/he eats or drinks
13.When I am annoyed with my spouse‚ I stop having sex with her/him for a while
14.I criticize my spouse's talking if I don’t like the way
15.I keep telling my spouse how he/she should wear his/her clothes
16.In order to convince my spouse to do as I demand I give him/her what he wants before that
17.When I am irritated with my spouse‚ I intentionally do things she/he doesn't like to hurt her/his feelings
18.I criticize my spouse if she/he doesn’t perform as I want in our sexual relationship
19.I remind my spouse over and over about her/his mistakes
20.When my spouse touches my personal things without my permission‚ I don't let her/him do it again
21.I warn my spouse to act according to my demands; otherwise‚ I won’t do what she/he wants
22.I believe our love is not strong enough‚ because my spouse doesn't work on our relationship sufficiently
23.I warn my spouse that if she/he doesn’t do what I want‚ I will limit/end our sexual relationship
24.I reproach my spouse for his/her behavior if she/he comes home late
25.I remind my spouse of our love to motivate him/her to act in accordance with my demands
26.I tell my spouse that if she/he wants to continue her/his relations with her/his relatives‚ she/he must give me absolute freedom
27.I threaten my spouse to make her/him do what I want
28.When I am annoyed with my spouse's behavior‚ I ridicule her/him in retaliation
29.I tell my spouse that her/his attitude toward my family is annoying
30.If my spouse's behavior disappoints me‚ I will express my disappointment to her/him
31.When I get into argument with my spouse‚ I threaten to throw her/him out of the house
32.I repeatedly warn my spouse about the consequences of her/his actions
33.I tell my spouse of my negative feelings about her/his personality again and again
34.I express my dissatisfaction with my spouse's attitude to her/him
35.I criticize my spouse's manners if I don’t like his/her attitude toward my family
36.When I fight with my spouse I leave the house/room to punish her/him
37.I frequently remind my spouse not to forget to do a task
38.I feel my spouse doesn't understand me and I express this feeling to him/her
39.When I fight with my spouse‚ I yell at her/him and use offensive words
40.If our child does something wrong‚ I tell my spouse that it is her/his responsibility to teach/correct our child and I blame her/him for our child's behavior
41.When I am angry at my spouse‚ I don’t tell her/him frankly. Instead‚ I am stubborn
42.If my spouse does what I want I’ll make love with her/him
43.When I am annoyed with my spouse‚ I talk to her/him sarcastically
44.I express my despair of any improvement in our relationship to my spouse
45.I blame my spouse If she/he makes any mistakes in her/his attitudes toward my family
46.I warn my spouse about his/her behavior if he/she doesn’t act as I like in his/her personal activities (job‚ education‚ social behavior‚ etc.)
47.I warn my spouse to act according to my demands; otherwise I will limit her/him in connecting with her/his family
48.When we have financial problems‚ I tell my spouse it is her/his fault
49.When I am angry at my spouse‚ I purposefully try to be dirty and messy to punish her/him
50.When my spouse doesn’t come to parties that I want‚ I limit her/his social relations
51.Sometimes I feel deep regret that I married my spouse and I express this feeling to her/him
52.I threaten my spouse not to do anything against my interests or I will limit her/his freedom of action
53.When my spouse annoys me‚ I try to limit her/his connection with her/his family
54.I show my dissatisfaction with our sexual relationship to my spouse
55.When I have some demand that requires my spouse to do something for me I pay more attention to her/him
56.I correct my spouse if he/she is doing a task wrongly
57.If I feel dissatisfaction in my marital relationship I accuse my spouse of making me so annoyed
58.I tell my spouse if she/he does the things I tell her/him to do‚ I will give her/him more freedom of action
59.When I want my spouse to do something for me‚ before I ask her/him I buy some gift for her/him
60.If I don’t like the way my spouse behaves socially‚ I express this feeling to her/him
61.When I compare my marital relationship to others I feel disappointed and let my spouse know this feeling
62.I keep telling my spouse "you don't understand me"
63.I tell my spouse that I will do what she/he wants only on the condition that she/he does what I want
64.I criticize my spouse If I don’t like his/her appearance
65.I repeatedly complain of my spouse’s sexual function
66.When I have a problem with my spouse‚ I don’t answer her/him in order to show I am ignoring her/him
67.When my spouse doesn’t respect my family‚ I disrespect her/his family in response
68.When I have an argument with my spouse‚ in which he/she uses offensive words‚ I reproach him/ her for this behavior
69.IF my spouse doesn’t act according to my demands‚ I nag her/him to make her/him do what I want
70.I attack my spouse's style if she/he doesn’t wear clothes according to my tastes
71.When I get into an argument with my spouse‚ I threaten her/him that I will divorce her/him
72.When I argue with my spouse‚ I threaten to disrespect his/her family
73.I attack my spouse about his/her behavior repeatedly
74.If my spouse conforms to my interests‚ I express romantic feelings to her/him
75.I tell my spouse that she/he must act according to my demands if she/he wants me to do something for her/him
76.When I argue with my spouse‚ I escalate the argument to fight with her/him physically
77.When I am irritated by my spouse‚ I limit her/his friendly/social connections
شرح سایت روان سنجی: این پرسشنامه توسط "محمدی و پیرخائفی، 1393" برپایه تئوری انتخاب "ویلیام گلاسر" ساخته شده است. هفت عامل "انتقاد"، "غرغر"، "سرزنش"، "تهدید"، "حق حساب دادن و گله و شکایت دارد. (محمدی و خائفی، 1393)
خرده مقیاس ها و اعتبار: هماهنگی درونی، آلفا کرونباخ
برای کل مقیاس 0.95 ،برای عامل ها: انتقاد 0.82، غرغر 0.76، سرزنش .78 ، تهدید 0.83، حق حساب دادن 0.76، تنبیه 0.82، و گله و شکایت 0.71
نمره گذاری:
“Never‚ Seldom‚ Sometimes‚ Often‚ and Always”
Criticizing (1‚ 3‚ 12‚ 14‚ 18‚ 35‚ 46‚ 56‚ 64‚ and 70); Blaming (5‚ 9‚ 11‚ 22‚ 24‚ 40‚ 45‚ 48‚ 57‚ and 68); Complaining (10‚ 29‚ 30‚ 34‚ 38‚ 44‚ 51‚ 54‚ 60‚ and 61); Nagging (4‚ 6‚ 15‚ 19‚ 32‚ 33‚ 37‚ 62‚ 65‚ 69‚ and 73); Threatening (2‚ 8‚ 21‚ 23‚ 27‚ 31‚ 47‚ 52‚ 71‚ and 72); Punishing (7‚ 13‚ 17‚ 20‚ 28‚ 36‚ 39‚ 41‚ 43‚ 49‚ 50‚ 53‚ 66‚ 68‚ 76‚ and 77); Bribing (16‚ 25‚ 26‚ 42‚ 55‚ 58‚ 59‚ 63‚ 74‚ and 75).
چگونگی دستیابی
منبع برای آگاهی بیشتر
Glasser‚ W. (1998). Choice theory: A new psychology of personal freedom. New York: HarperCollins.
Mohamadi‚ Sahar.‚ Sahebi‚ Ali. Construction of an English Version of the Quality of Marital Relationships (QMR) Scale Based on Glasser’s Seven Deadly Habits. International Journal of Choice Theory and Reality Therapy • Spring 2014 • Vol. XXXIII‚ number 2 • 52